Choosing Peace Over Winning: The Power of Silence in Relationships

In relationships, only some things require a response: Not all things. For instance, if one is in a relationship and the other person’s character reflects bossiness, an inability to accept a wrong, argumentative, and, therefore, cannot say sorry, one must remember the power of not engaging in an argument. This could mean taking a deep breath and counting to ten before responding, or choosing to change the subject when a potentially heated discussion arises.

As Dale Carnegie wisely suggested in his book ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People,’ ‘If you argue and rankle and contradict, you may achieve a victory sometimes, but it will be an empty victory because you will never get your opponent’s goodwill.’

While it may feel like a victory to win an argument, it’s important to consider the cost. Often, the other person may graciously walk away to preserve their pride and ego, making your victory hollow. This highlights the futility of winning arguments and the need to prioritize peace over victory.

By consciously avoiding arguments, you are not only preserving your own peace but also empowering yourself to maintain control in your relationships. This choice to prioritize peace and control can lead to healthier and more fulfilling relationships. Grace and peace to you!