When we make choices, let us remember that the options will ultimately make us. It could also impact others beyond our immediate environment. Apart from ourselves, our choices could impact co-workers, family members, friends, etc. We should always weigh the choices if they met the principles of equity, justice, and the fear of God. If they did, let them slide.
Let us not be reactive when people react to how our options make them feel. Let us relax, and go to the balcony, which Ury says is a metaphor for a place of introspection and meditation. On the balcony, let us balance our actions and see if we had to unmake the choices where possible. Where not possible, let us apologize and move on because time shall heal the wounds. We might be bruised in the process, it does not matter. What will matter is the outcome of the choices we have made. Good or bad, let us be accountable for our actions and not push blames. Blame game enslaves us in perpetuity and always looking for a scapegoat.
As a rational full-fledged being with a stable head on a shoulder, once you have taken an action, don’t waste precious time justifying and rationalizing the choices to please people. You chose to satisfy your inner need and interest, let it be.
When we keep explaining what we did without end, then something is wrong. No matter the explanations, some would mischievously block their ears not hear you. Some would pretend to hear you, praise you and go behind to condemn you.
So, good or bad, live your life, move on, and whatever the outcome (s), blame no one but yourself because the choices we make shall ultimately make us. It is a principle that never fails. That is why we must be careful on the choices of our words, reactions and actions.
Grace and peace!!!